by In the last few days, I’ve started to notice a topic popping up frequently on social media – “Venus Retrograde”.Friends around me are discussing the impact of this time on relationships, some say it’s the peak of breakups, while others say it’s not a good time to start a new relationship.I’m suddenly a bit worried about my relationship status.
To be honest, I’ve always had an interest in astrology, but what really made me take it seriously was my friend Dave’s experience last year.He was completely dumped by his girlfriend during the Venus retrograde period, and then spent a whole month in a café.Since then, I’ve been paying attention to the timing of Venus retrograde each year, trying to prepare in advance.
This year was no exception.When I saw all the alerts about Venus retrograde on my phone, my heart skipped a beat.Especially the warnings of “don’t start a new relationship,” “don’t buy expensive gifts,” and “don’t make important decisions,” I felt like I was being emotionally shackled.
Why does Venus retrograde cause anxiety?
Venus rules love, beauty and money, and when it is retrograde, there tends to be some confusion or delay in these areas.For example, what was once a smooth emotional exchange becomes a stumbling block, or misunderstandings between two people suddenly become more frequent.Many people will experience mood swings during this time and even make decisions that they regret later.
I myself made a big mistake on the first day of Venus retrograde.On that day, I swiped through TikTok and saw a video that said you can “summon your ex” by reminiscing about old times.On impulse, I sent a message to my ex-girlfriend from college, “Remember that music festival we went to together?”As soon as I pressed send, I realized what a stupid thing I had done.
To make matters worse, my then-partner happened to call to confirm dinner arrangements.I answered the phone and fumbled to delete the message, so nervous that I almost dropped my phone.At that moment I really felt that Venus retrograde is no joke.
A minor conflict in a relationship may also escalate.
The next day, my partner and I had a fight over the way we folded the laundry.Usually I choose to compromise, but that day somehow I was particularly stubborn.At 2 a.m., I actually made a PPT analyzing in detail how much space is wasted the way she folds her clothes and sent it to her.
The result?I woke up in the morning to find that she hadn’t said a word back.I did get a couple messages on my phone:
One was from my mom, “Your dog threw up on the carpet.”
And one from my buddy: “Were you drunk last night?”
And she replied with one word: “?”
I wanted to find a hole in the ground right then and there.
I later realized that Venus tends to amplify emotions during its retrograde period, and even something small can turn into a big problem.So during this phase, it’s best to avoid pointless arguments and overly rationalized communication styles.
Tips for resisting temptation.
Once on a Friday night, I had a few drinks and flipped to my ex’s Instagram feed and saw a picture of her on a beach vacation.At that moment, my heart fluttered and my finger had moved to the private message button.Luckily, I stopped in time, and my mind drifted to Dave gawking at the cafe.
To calm myself down, I did three things:
- immediately filled two large glasses of water;
- messaged a friend, “Don’t make me do anything stupid!”
- blocked my ex’s account.
I woke up the next day with a slight headache, but I didn’t regret it at all.This experience taught me that the most dangerous thing during Venus retrograde is not the cosmic energy, but our own unconscious state.
The little ways that seem strange but work.
By the second week of Venus retrograde, I stopped thinking about fighting it and tried some of the methods shared by others.It sounds a little strange, but it really helped:
- Write angry emails but don’t send them: sometimes we want to express our emotions, but saying it outright can be hurtful.So I write all my grievances in a memo and read it when the emotion passes, and many of the issues are actually not that serious at all.
- Make lists but don’t share them: I’ll make lists of what I think about relationships, such as “I want the other person to understand me more,” but I won’t take those lists and ask others to do the same.
- Wear mismatched socks: This practice may sound funny, but it’s said to help distract you from obsessing over the small details of your relationship.
Although these methods don’t seem to have much scientific basis, they are like a kind of emotional decompression valve that helped me release a lot of stress.
Summary: Venus retrograde is not a source of emotional disaster.
After this round of Venus retrograde, I realized that it is actually not as terrible as I thought.What really affects relationships are the impulsive decisions and emotional reactions we make at this stage.
If you’re going through a similar situation, it’s good to keep a few suggestions in mind:
- Don’t start a new relationship lightly;
- Avoid making major decisions when you are emotionally charged;
- Reduce unnecessary arguments and learn to listen;
- Allow yourself more time and space to calm down.
The last thing I want to say is that Venus retrograde just makes us look at the problems that already exist in our relationships.It won’t actively destroy the relationship, but it will bring those hidden issues to the surface.
So instead of dreading its arrival, think of it as an opportunity for self-growth.After all, it is important to understand what you really want in a relationship.
